Mastering the Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position

With all of the sex positions out there, the reverse cowgirl has to be one of the hottest and most invigorating positions there is - if you do it correctly. Incorrectly done, and it can be one of your least favorite positions.

So, what is the reverse cowgirl position and what does it feel like? Are there health benefits to the position or are there negative effects?

Do men and women both achieve orgasms from this position or is it more ‘one-sided’?

We’ve dug up as much information as we possibly could on the topic and created our own unofficial guide to the position, now the whole world can get a glimpse inside of the good, the bad, and the beautiful of the hottest sex position out there - the reverse cowgirl.

It Was Just ‘The Cowgirl’ Before It Was Reversed

While we can’t find out the very first couple that banged backward, the cowgirl was popular the moment sex was discovered.

There are depictions of couples having sex with the woman on top as far back as 62-79 BC, one instance, in particular, being a wall painting by Pompeii in ancient Rome.

Pompeii depicted a woman ‘riding’ a man in his erotic art, so we know that this sexual position has been around since the very start.

More erotic art was found centuries ago, from many different countries, showing the woman on top but in a reversed position not long after the cowgirl position was depicted in art.

It’s safe to say that the term and idea probably came in 79 to 80 BC, or around that same timeframe considering that sex has been an idea since Adam and Eve and the conception of the universe itself.

How Do You “Do” the Reverse Cowgirl?

The way you ‘perform’ the reverse cowgirl is quite simple, at least for the man it is.

The man gets to lie back and watch while the woman takes the reigns, which admittedly is totally fine for most women considering it’s usually the man in charge anyways.

The woman straddles the man just as she would if she were sitting on top of him getting prepared for the ‘cowgirl’ position, but instead she faces his feet and not his face.

Her knees should be on each side of him to prop and position herself best on his penis, this also helps when easing that very first stroke in.

That’s it, the woman then can either move her hips like a belly dancer from front to back, or she can bounce up and down giving him the most erotic view of your ass and motion that is sure to make him cum quick!

**A tip for men: Not technically a tip, as you literally can lie back and watch the movie, it’s all up to the woman with this sex position! Lucky dude! Just let her know you’re loving the scene to get her and keep her really going at it!

**A tip for women: Don’t fret too much about having to take the reigns and learning to drive a stick. This position is made for you if you do it right and you’ll have yourself cumming quicker than you ever did with him on top.

10 Reasons Why the Reverse Cowgirl Is One of the Best Positions

1. It feels fucking wonderful.

And not just for the man, but for the woman especially. Even though the man gets to lay there and relax, with a fantastic view, the woman is getting her g-spot stimulated to the maximum with this position. We all know that the g-spot is the way females have theirs out of this world orgasm experience.

There’s also a p-spot that is stimulated during this position, the posterior fornix, that helps lead to mind-blowing orgasms as well. So with your g-spot and p-spot being stimulated simultaneously, you’re both sure to finish pretty proudly.

2. It makes women feel better about themselves.

Confidence during sex plays a huge part in the way the sex is performed by either the man or the woman, so if a woman is feeling herself and confident about herself during the dirty deed, then you’re sure to have a good ole’ dirty time! 

On the contrary, if women don’t feel in control sometimes and don’t feel like they are on top sometimes (and not just on top of you), they won’t be confident at all, which could lead to pretty boring sex life.

Something about a woman taking charge and taking over while he relaxes and watches as her sexy ass literally bounces up and down on him, drives a man absolutely insane and can make him fall in love if you’re not careful.

3. Any woman can do it.

It doesn’t matter your shape or size, any woman is able to perform the reverse cowgirl on her man or on a man period. This is because some of your weight (if you’re the woman) will be placed onto your legs, not him. You’re not going to crush him, promise.

He does need to help support some of your weight so that you aren’t always feeling it in your legs, but the balance between the two of you will help the both of you not feel so strained.

Now, if you’re worried about being able to ride him backward, well that’s a different story. Truthfully, once “you’re on the ride” you’ll instinctively know what to do. Either that or you’ll find out real quick what doesn’t feel right to you by doing it!

4. Deeper penetration.

Again, this position has to be done correctly (see: ‘Some Ways to Have Reverse Cowgirl Sex’ below) but if done the right way you and your partner will see that this position allows such deep penetration and it even allows the lady to be in charge of that.

It’s truly all up to her how the sex goes in this position unless you try another way of doing it where the man does most of the work, but when it’s left up to her she literally has complete control over his penis and how deep it can go.

5. Perfect for those who like to touch and be touched.

If you’re the man in this position, you can play with and watch her ass. Squeezing and spanking her, if she’s into that kind of stuff. If she’s leaned back enough you can always play with her breasts, nipples, and clitoris too.

For females on top that are open-minded, this is when you can show him just how freaky you really are and start playing with his balls. Just think of it as “his clit” and it would be much like the guy playing with yours, instead, his are big and round and droopy.

6. Great for people who love booty and booty-play.

Meaning that if you are a chic who either loves being spanked and fondled on the ass, or you want to try anal - the reverse cowgirl could be perfect for you.

For dudes, if you just love looking at ‘that ass’, this position is also perfect for you. The booty is showcased on a platter during this hot sex position, so it’s no wonder those who are booty-obsessed dub this position as their favorite one.

7. It plays out the fantasies of both good and bad.

Basically, it’s not the type of sex you’d really call a “making love” session unless you and your husband or wife are just kinky as hell. Even so, this position is not one of the more intimate positions since you are faced away from each other and a considerable amount of space away from each other during something as intimate as sex.

What we’re saying is, it’s hot, spicy, and sexy all at the same time, you most certainly do this with your wifey in the bedroom every night if she lets you, but you also can do this with a one-night-stand and not really have to look at them the whole time, or get really intimate with them during the act.

It’s a super versatile position where you don’t have to get too intimate with the person you’re doing it with if you don’t want to. However, it’s a great “switch-over” position you can use when switching from missionary to doggy-style, or something like that.

8. It’s unique and it builds trust between the two that use it on a more serious basis.

If you’re trying out the reverse cowgirl with your significant other, you two are building a deeper bond of trust between the two of you and you probably didn’t even know it.

There’s something about a new adventure between a loving couple that also involves something like sex that opens up your hearts and minds more. In turn, the two of you build a deeper connection and bond, which also then builds trust.

9. It’s not too bad for your health either.

I think most of us know that sex itself is good for your health in the sense that you’re getting in some really great exercise. A great exercise session is good for a lot of things like your heart and really your whole body, your immune system, your brain, and so much more.

So it shouldn’t be a secret that reverse cowgirl is a pretty damn good workout, at least for the one doing all of the work, and 30 minutes of that daily? You’d be a beast after one month!

10. It’s too damn sexy not to try.

Listen, if you’re having sex the best thing to do is be spicy during it, that’s what turns everyone on and achieves maximum pleasure for all. Whether it’s the first time with this guy or the first time in a long time with your husband, you can use this sexual position as your go-to to rock his world and blow his …. Mind!

Ways to Have Reverse Cowgirl Sex

1. Physically in a chair.

This would be ideal for first-timers or first-time couples practicing the act together, possibly even really drunk college kids at a party, as a chair acts as the prop to “hold everyone and everything into place”.

The guy would sit down in the chair as normal, and the girl will sit on his lap like she’s asking for Christmas gifts from Santa. From here, she can choose to bounce up and down using her knees on the chair or by using her feet on the floor - whichever she prefers.

She could also try to grind back and forth, moving her hips forward and backward on his penis.

Since a chair only allows limited space, this is more ideal for smaller couples or more flexible ones at least.

2. On the bed.

There are hundreds of ways to have sex on the bed but when we’re talking about the “regular way” of doing the reverse cowgirl, it is much like the chair way but the man lays down on the bed instead of sitting in the chair upright.

The woman straddles him backward, with her knee on each side of his body, kneeling on the bed.

She then uses her own body and moves to perform the reverse cowgirl and the man sits back and enjoys the view! She can use different motions such as grinding, bobbing, 

3. He takes the reigns instead.

So basically with this choice of backward cowgirl sex, you can really choose any style you’d like - the chair, the bed, the car. But instead of her doing all of the work, he’s going to do all of the work.

So, how exactly can he take the driver's seat instead?

He can hold on to her hips and thrust into her just as he would during the cowgirl, or even during missionary, find the best spot and angle for her that works the best, and you’re doing it.

Maybe even try switching turns, allow her to do it some of the time and then she can allow him to finish, or vice versa.

4. ‘The Galley’.

This is a form of ‘reverse cowgirl’ with the man lying down but propped up on his elbows, and the woman on top of him, reversed of course, but with her upper body leaned more forward and not just sitting upright.

The galley is a pretty cool move because the woman can still be the star of the show or she can take a break and this is where the man can take his turn. He’s able to thrust into her from this position especially if she’s leaning up.

5. Double Decker.

The double-decker is simply just when the woman lies back on her male counterpart, with her back touching his chest.

This allows her a little bit of rest while the man supports some of her weight then on him, this also allows some pretty steamy and intimate contact if you want.

Mastering the Reverse Cowgirl Moves

For her

Two things to remember when you’re on top whether that be backward or forward girls, and those two things are bobbing up and down or bouncing (this depends on how hard & fast you want to get) and then grinding back and forth.

Both bouncing/bobbing and grinding can be done at a pace that you desire, and your partner desires. Also, take into consideration the angle of the penis entering the vagina and don’t just ‘jam’ it in there as you might in another position.

You don’t have to do just one or the other either, you can spend some time grinding then switch over to bouncing up and down.

Playing with his balls or leaning back on him and allowing him to kiss your neck, or grab your breasts will turn this already sexy position into the sexiest he’s ever seen.

For him

If she wants to be the one in control this time and she’s been talking about this for some time now, then do not try to take over unless she asks you to.

You can always help her by supporting some of her weight on you at times, and also by complimenting her in a sexy way of course along the way.

On the contrary, if you notice her getting tired or you feel like it’s the right time, go ahead and grab her gently by the hips and whisper in her ear “let me fuck you now baby”. She’s sure to let go, and let you take over right then and there.

Girls Love It, but What Do Guys Think About the Reverse Cowgirl?

We all know women love the reverse cowgirl because it gives them confidence, makes them feel sexy, and they feel dominant over the man they’re banging at that moment.

But what about guys? Do guys love it as much as we want them to love it?

The truth is, men absolutely have fallen in love with this position and not it’s only because of the view of the booty. One of the major reasons men love this position is also the view of her vagina while she bobs or bounces up and down during penetration.

Another top reason men love the reverse cowgirl position is how sexy it is when the girl is in charge, and especially when she’s grinding on you in the bed at night.

Perhaps though, the most adored thing about the position for men is how different it feels for them among many other sexual act. This position makes for one of the deepest, one of the most a, b, c spot hitting, and most unique angles in sexual history and sexual acts.

If you’re asking if both men and women can cum from this position, the answer is hell yes and possibly ten times over.

The Reverse Cowgirl Is Both Loved and Hated

In cum-conclusion

We talked about all of the reasons why the backward cowgirl has been and still is super popular and beneficial, but just like anything else that is amazing, it has its haters and nay-sayers.

people that don’t like the reverse cowgirl position were either doing it wrong or they weren’t with the right partner.

We make a bet with you that if you find the person who knows what they’re doing, tickles your fancy, and you both perform correctly by using our small guide above, you’ll have a pleasant experience in doing so.